Open the news paper Monday morning and what you see on the front page” Kerala actor raped in her moving Audi”.
Just got back from a trip to Kerala. My father insisted as always that he would drop me to station and he did. As we were waiting I could see the tension in him as he was looking around to find women who would be travelling along with me in the same compartment and found none. Finally one lady walks in and he has a sigh of relief as he confirms she is traveling to the same destination and more important in the same compartment. They had a brief conversation on how girls need to be more careful now a days and by then the train arrives. As I settle he says bye to me not before asking me to cover myself well as it will get cold soon. I’m more or less used to this, as it’s going on for the last two decades. Today’s news just confirmed why fathers worry about their daughters no matter how old they are.
We are in the age of the Aquarius. It is said to be the time when women will rise. It is the time when we will come to the awareness of female strength. And one can see it all around us. Mary kom, P.V Sindhu, Sakshi Malik, Saina Nehwal, Sania Mirza, our Dangal girls Geetha, Babitha , TV Anupama IAS and many more. Now this does not mean we create a matriarchal society. We don’t want either, let us just chuck the patriarchal/ matriarchal nonsense. It is just high time we bring up our kids as “human beings ” just a good human being and not just as a “boy ” or a “girl”.
A boy need not be brought up saying he has to take care of the girls in his family. Instead he can be brought up by teaching how he should respect a woman and elders be humble and do his own work. Do household chores together. Help each other and watch what you speak, even if it is to the beggars on the streets. Have conversations with them and help them understand what they want to do with their life and guide them towards that. Let them chase their dreams, help them to be expressive. Be strong and also sensitive,so that you are sensible enough to face the challenges. Most importantly, tell them boys can cry too as they are also human beings.
To the girls – a girls body goes through so many changes as they grow up. Now that cannot be a reason to start helping them to build a negative self image people. Kids are meant to go out and play and that applies to girls too which will help them build their reflexes. This helps the child to react appropriately to any kind of situations.Give them appropriate clothes so that they don’t have to feel conscious when they run or walk. Yes, I mean the sports bra for teens. Bring them up as human beings. Be humble, respect everyone, be polite, be strong, do your own work and do not wait for others to help. Help them find their strength and guide them to that direction. Their life purpose is not just to find the right guy and set a home. Let them chase their dreams. And more importantly bring them up to believe in themselves, no matter what challenges life throws at them. More importantly teach her that their dignity and purity does not lie in her vagina.