Happiness is having crazy friends!

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Maya Pillai, when I met you last month after a gap of 16 long years, I honestly didn’t know what to expect. We have had  crazy times together when we were roomies. You know what I’m talking about 😉 And let me refrain from explaining about those days here, I will save that for another time.

People change with times and that is inevitable with the lifestyle you choose to have, The jobs that we take up, the experiences life throws at us and for many more reasons. I believed I had changed. The things people have to say about me at times sounds like they are talking about a stranger. When I saw you walking in I could see few changes in you too. The obvious one being how you looked after 16 years :-P(that goes for both of us)  and then we were trying to be nice, with all that pleasantries . Gladly pretending to be nice did not last for long, as we are horrible actors.

One thing I realized the moment I saw you was how much I missed you. And I could see that in your eyes too. And both of us knew immediately that somethings….. Just don’t change!

It was that eureka moment where I realized few things about life.

  • It is very difficult to find someone with the same mental disorder.
  • If you are lucky to find one, don’t ever lose them.
  • And if you do happen to lose them, every second of your time spent to look for them is totally worth it.
  • Once you find them do not pretend that you have changed for good and everything now is normal. As it takes hardly a moment for them to read right through you. And remember they are the one who always knew that normal scares the crap out of you.

Friends like you often bring out the crazy, stupid, weird side of you. But when I look back, those are among the most amazing memories of my life.

Let me end it here by saying “Behind every successful woman is a best friend giving her crazy ideas”.

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If not now, when?

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Women Empowerment refers to increasing and improving the social, economic, political and legal strength of the women, to ensure equal-right to women, and to make them confident enough to claim their rights, such as:

  • freely live their life with a sense of self-worth, respect and dignity,
  • have complete control of their life, both within and outside of their home and workplace,
  • to make their own choices and decisions,
  • have equal rights to participate in social, religious and public activities,
  • have equal social status in the society,
  • have equal rights for social and economic justice,
  • determine financial and economic choices,
  • get equal opportunity for education,
  • get equal employment opportunity without any gender bias,
  • get safe and comfortable working environment,

Coming to think of it I fail to understand when and how women ever lost these rights? If you see decades back women always had these rights and they knew they have it and used it appropriately. A seismic shift in the attitude of people should have happened over a period of time. Now whatever was the cause of it, religious, political, situational… the sad part is nobody saw it coming. Even worse, it was let to happen.

Women’s day is celebrated every year, where one day in a year everybody talks about women empowerment, treat them with respect, show love and it goes on and on……. Next day it is forgotten and everyone eventually minds their own business. We rather celebrate a human day. And we all decide to act like humans, so that the whole issue of inequality doesn’t even exist. Man and woman are both born with different characteristics. Both stronger in their own way and that’s how it is meant to be, Nature likes to keep the balance.

 A women is born physically different from a man, she has the right blend of strength with grace, courage with compassion, wisdom with vision and tenacity with tolerance above all this a nurturing instinct. Nobody can take these qualities away from her unless she gives it up herself. All the messages talking about giving a woman confidence, courage, back them up to prove themselves etc.… etc.…. amuse me. Why should we wait for someone to give us what is there within us? Why should we lose ourselves and then try to find ourselves again? So ladies and girls, let us stop expecting others to stand up for us, instead stand up on your own. And if you fail, it does not matter, bounce back. Let it take time, it does not matter. Nobody is keeping a count. Do not play the victims card.

It all starts with a decision how you choose to live your life. There are lifestyles that either support or damage success.  Create lifestyles that support your success. Do not get addicted to approval and have a thick skin when it comes to rejection.( no” is just someone’s opinion, anything is actually possible.)

To all the women out there, just remind yourself that you are good as you are. You don’t have to wear a designer dress to look good, but when you walk in, look like you own it. Stand as tall as you can, shoulder back, head held high.

Never miss to make eye contact with everyone in a room when you enter and when you do it, do it with an engaging smile. (Remember you are a woman, grace and compassion is what you are born with)

Hand shake, make it strong and firm even if you get a wimpy one.

Sit down with grace and don’t hesitate to take space. Never cower.

Be resilient and admit that you are not perfect. (That’s the law of universe; nobody is born perfect admitting that does not make you small.)

Be the best in what you choose do!  Being a homemaker does not mean being jobless, it is also a decision, I would say, a rather tough one.

There is no force equal to a woman determined to rise!

Life is black and white only until you paint it bright!

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When you photograph people in color you photograph their clothes.But when you photograph people in black and white you photograph their souls! – Ted Grant

Black and white is just right and simple, until you create something different and beautiful and make it colorful!

Colors are more than what they seem to be. They impact your mood and emotions because they have an influence to the flow and amount of energy in the body. Colors can affect your aura and  color therapist can vouch on this.

The colors you choose  throws light on your personality, it’s a way of self-expression.

Color Pink is very contradictory. In western culture it is associated with  feminine traits and in some countries like Japan it is associated with masculine traits. Pink has a calming effect on  people when used in moderation, but over use it and it will lead to irritation and  inspire  feelings of weakness in men. Now you know why it’s contradictory, it is complicated.  😉  

 

Live a life of no regrets!

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Life is beautiful

We have heard about all those quotes saying life is short, live it to the
fullest……..
But this one is serious folks. So if you are reading this, which means you
still have time to work on it.

It is quite simple; let me tell you out of my experience. Live the moment without thinking what next. And while you are at it, listen to your heart and do what it says without judging. The consequences are mostly beautiful and worth it 😉

Stay happy

Be yourself, no one else can do that better than you.

Stay in touch with those who wait to hear from you and who brings that twinkle in your eyes

Do not be afraid to express yourself, for no one is going to remember what you said the next day;)

Work is good, but having fun while you are at it…….. priceless 😁